"If you want to get chicks, you have to meet chicks," says Kirshenbaum. "Preferably when their defenses are down."

For all their excuses ("Girls' night!"), women go to bars and clubs for the same reason you do: to meet someone. A spot behind the bar ensures eye contact and then some, and customer-bartender rapport can quickly escalate into a conversation about his loftier dreams of selling his artwork -- which he'll be glad to show her back at his studio when his shift ends at 2 a.m.