Last year, Mo Rocca blogged about a decline in the time-honored tradition of construction workers hooting at women.But most of the women we know have different thoughts about the chronic festering of this unwanted attention. (Yeah, we know a few hotties: They tell us their troubles and leave us with the check.)
In all honesty: What do these whistling oafs expect a passing woman to do? Quell their cheers by stopping and taking off all her clothes?
One Israeli woman traveling in New Zealand recently did just that, stripping down out of annoyance, calmly withdrawing money from an ATM in the buff and then suiting up and going on her way.
She later told police -- who didn't charge her, but warned her that the behavior was "inappropriate" -- that she just thought "I'll show them what I've got," as the men whistled at her. "She gave the explanation that she had been ... pestered by New Zealand men. She's not an unattractive-looking lady," a police sergeant remarked.
Questions Raised: Is there less whistling coming from construction sites these days? Catcalls are an outdated (and totally useless) pick-up technique; what's a more sensitive way for a modern man to approach a lady on the street? Is there such a thing?
And some more scantily-clad ladies...
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Thursday 22 May
By lady
There is no sensitive way to approach a woman on the street. We're not outside for you, so let us do our thing. This is not to say that it's impossible for two people to meet in public and have a good relationship, I know people who've done it, but if you see me on the train and feel comfortable approaching me, you're probably not the type of person I want to associate with.
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Sunday 25 May
By Richard
she stripped because she wanted to show off her body, most women secretly like to show what they have. She was turned on by the attention and more women would do it if it was considered acceptable by society. Women are basically craving the attention of men, thats why they dress in revealing attire. Women are here for the pleasure of men, and most women love being in the spotlight. I learned this from experience.
Sunday 25 May
By Dave
Depending upon the approach, whether it be on a train or not, a low key introduction or appropriate comment to begin a conversation would seem acceptable. Just a simple "hello how are you" might ignite an interesting dialog if the other party would accept it. I have found that those who are comfortable enough to recognize others verbally at times tend to be successful, outgoing and educated.....you can tell the difference in about seventeen seconds. Conversation without alterior motives can be most refreshing. There are at times I find others most intriquing, and do not find it unnatural to politely introduce my self after a few exchanged words.
Sunday 25 May
By lady
that's horribly sad. thats just extreme ignorance and stupidity, probably hurting you more than anyone else.
Sunday 25 May
By Melissa
To Richard -
Women are here for the pleasure of men? Wow, that's not a male chauvinist pig talking at all. You're an idiot. I ASSURE you that I'm NOT here for the pleasure of you or any other man, and the fact that you look at women in such a way tells me exactly what kind of man you are - one that I would absolutely never even consider dating because I'm WAY out of your league.
And I don't wear "revealing attire" for the "attention of men," I wear things sometimes in order to make MYSELF feel more attractive - attention from any man other than my own is not desired nor necessary.
So I don't know what rock you grew up under, but your outlook on women is completely and utterly INCORRECT. Women were not put here to serve men. We're not your servants. Those of us who are confident, educated women know better than to fall victim to the likes of someone like you. We're here to fulfill our own desires - whether that be getting married, having a family, starting a business, changing the world, and many other things. The fact that we choose to include a man in our lives doesn't mean that we are there to "pleasure" him - it means we are there to bring pleasure to EACH OTHER in every way imaginable. It's called LOVE - something you clearly know nothing about.
Saturday 14 June
By Misti
Richard - you must have had your experience with all the wrong women. Both genders need to stop generalising each other. We should be analyzed as individuals, not as men or women. Not all men are sex-hungry and not all women want nothing but money.
All in all, women aren't here for the pleasure of men at all, and to say that is to degrade women as accessories, which we are not. I think you, Richard, dearly need a reality check. No woman is going to stand for that, so if you intend on being with one someday, you'll need to learn the truth about what women - and men - are all really here for (and here's a hint - it's not for each other's pleasure).
Sunday 15 June
By Paula
Just wondering if you're married, and if so, where/how did you meet him, since you're clearly not interested in being approached.
Sunday 25 May
By Mikey the Nail
Well, I would say guys who whistle at women and honk horns are pretty much just as unreasonable as women who are offended by the behavior.
Does it happen less? Probably, but that may be because it never works. Maybe it did at one time.
What works today? MONEY. Plain and simple. That's all they care about.
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Monday 26 May
By Emma
Do you really think that women only care about money? Really? I disagree, but I also think that you've been rejected because of something and you put it down to money, or the lack thereof. Maybe you're a little, tiny bit bitter?
Monday 26 May
By Lou
Wow - you must frequent a LOT of prostitutes. Those are the only women I know that care only about money.
Monday 26 May
By Lou
Mikey - do you really value yourself so little that you think the only women who would be interested in you are there for the money? How pathetic.
Wednesday 28 May
By Gill
wait, how do you compare the guy who does it to the woman who is offended? You think people like being made a show of in public? Save your catcalls for the strip club.
Wednesday 28 May
By Gill
I can tell you that I personally have never known of a guys financial standings when I decide if I want to go out with him or not. I dated a guy at one point who was a drop out, had a minimum wage job. I loved him dearly, it didn't work out for reasons un-related to money. I do not look for money, nor do I want it supplied to me by a man. I'll make my own money and do just fine, I don't need someone else to support me in that way. All I need is to be happy with myself, and if I'm happy with another person by my side, then that is amazing too, becuase LOVE is a great and fantastic thing, that , clearly, you have not experienced.
Sunday 01 June
By S
Hey Mike is, unfortunately, not 'totally' wrong. How many ugly (personality-wise AND looks-wise), financially stocked men are with women who you would think wouldn't otherwise give them a second glance?
Although, I personally as a women am not lured into attraction by money - how many women can honestly say they DON"T know at least one woman (that one shallow-type friend) who is? For those men who use money to lure women and those women who are baited by such - though I don't understand or admire it - I have to say hope you get what you want while you can because money runs out and such shallow attractions hardly last as long as light of a full moon.
SO all in all - Mike's perspective isnt so off, unfortunately there are 'those' women out there who have caused this outlook he sees from - and many enough women to have made it moreso a 'normal' stereotypical perspective of women. I don't like it as much as the next women who doesn't fit this picture - but you know...it's there.
Tuesday 03 June
By Cassandra
Not all women, only the ones that don't value themselves as individuals or are too lazy to get a job of their own.
Saturday 14 June
By Misti
Hey, S - I suggest you look into the whole gold-digger bit. Many women marry "down" for reasons unrelated to finances.
Sunday 25 May
By Len
Women here for the pleasure of men? I think not.
One poster said "... Women are basically craving the attention of men, thats why they dress in revealing attire. Women are here for the pleasure of men, and most women love being in the spotlight. I learned this from experience. "
These are the words of a man who says she really wanted it even though she was screaming "stop" all the time he mounted her like an animal.
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Sunday 25 May
By ajm33771
excuse my spelling as i type this! am trying to get this done so that i can go to a few atm machines and hopefully find an attractive israeli woman to hoot and pester with cat calls. ya just never know how they may respond :) bye i am on my way. seeee yaaaa
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Sunday 25 May
By Melissa
And to Mikey -
Apparently you've never met a confident, educated, independent woman. I don't care how much money a man has as long as he treats me right - I've dated rich, and I've dated poor. I ended up with someone who is a hard worker, but doesn't have much to show for it because of money-grubbing women. I don't want his money. I work and I'm perfectly capable of providing for myself, as I've done since age 16. I have never and will never depend on any man for money, so please, think twice before you group ALL women into one category. Much like men, we are NOT all the same.
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Sunday 25 May
By no3eng
I would love to meet you dear lady. If what you say is true,then you`re the exception and not the rule. Take a big bow.