Lucky People Tend to Notice More

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Monday 05 January

By Patricia Lee

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I really think this is true , people say I'm the luckiest woman on earth ! I do pay attention to the small details and leave no stone unturned .

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Tuesday 06 January

By GW

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I have to admit that my keen sense of awareness has been a blessing.

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Tuesday 06 January

By gardinermob

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Chance favors the prepared mind ?

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Tuesday 06 January

By bk

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My son and I were walking down a sidewalk one day. He spied a penny on the ground and we raced to see who could get it first. Being taller, I got there first. Just before I picked it up, he shouted, "Is it heads or tails?" I stopped to answer and he said, "Don't pick it up then, it's bad luck." Before I could ask why he thought it was bad luck, he kicked the penny over and picked it up, laughing. "You have to make your own luck MOM!"

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Tuesday 06 January

By Sarah

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The luck article is interesting. I've noticed some only have what they have on their mind, and they aren't really listening or thinking about anything new, or comfortable with that, and always want for the world to fit around their construct which often never happens so they're continually disappointed. It's mostly what's happening around you, not you yourself that will make dreams or expectations happen, and in fact it's no guarantee to even expect since this is the case. I've "won" once in a lifetime experiences more then several times, but they aren't based on a financial figure, although are truly unique catches others work a long time for to have a much shorter experience of. I'm willing to take the long shot and invest time in it with no guarantee, but I can tell when it comes to people assessment due to auras and body language, etc., who I would like to get to know more, even if though I don't have any concept or plan in mind I know I better introduce myself, and I always strike a "goldmine" of something or another, in my opinion. However, this isn't a frequent experience, due to lifestyle, situational and social factors. Listening is an often underated skill, but it's an impressive one. I've also given advice to others not based on money but that resulted in it as part of the result, as well as about money. The important thing is not the scale of your own accomplishment, but what you have learned that can help someone else who hasn't yet reached that point, it's still valuable. I never really have strict plans or expectations, I often get more benefits from employers then I was originally informed of, when I know others won't take such jobs thinking they don't offer enough and sit at home instead posting. I say these things as someone with a home that will be paid off before 50 in a beautiful area, who has lifelong benefits, and has secured great employment in the worst of times, some of which is the most ideal. Someone who has lived in exotic locations, and has had dream jobs. After I lost a temp job due to turn permanent to nepotism, I started playing a musical instrument, and months later got my other job. I had someone scoff at me for using my time learning a new instrument when I needed a main job, as if all my time could be spend only looking for a job. I got an A in the class and now have a new hobby. You never know how things like this will tie into your next venture in life, and then you find out it does in some way, which makes it all the better. It's too bad some people are too rigid and think they know whats best for them with their list that's inflexible and brings them nothing they're looking for. There are no guarantees in life, alot of stuff should not be an expectation, and if it is, what is the fun of obtaining it anyway, there's no surprise.

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Tuesday 06 January

By Chretien

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Sarah, your response was really thoughtful and helpful...Thank you.

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Tuesday 06 January

By Tammy

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Sarah, I really enjoyed reading your comment. I thing the article was correct in that people who are more observant find more opportunities. I also appreciated how you spoke of your ability to have discernment with people and situations. I think that is both a gift and a developed talent for you. One thing I would add is that having a positive outlook is also key. When we have positive outcomes on our mind, and maintain positive attitudes, we expect good things to come to us, then we notice when they do. When we expect negative and focus on that, we only notice the negative and feel like victims all the time.
I have learned in the last few years that I need to be both more observant and more optimistic. It's been amazing that one's situation can improve so much by surrounding oneself with positive attitudes and positive people, because that in turn helps to notice the opportunities that come up and to be more discerning of those that are not such a positive influence.

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Tuesday 06 January

By Gary

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Sarah, you must be a professional writer and if not should be. I enjoyed every sentence of your remarks. My cousin and I are going through a "bad luck" phase at our Elks Bingo games which we enjoy largely because profits go to charity and reports are given out as to how and when they help families. But, come on, dropping about $55.00 a week each and never winning for several weeks now we know we can't keep it up. We don't want to win every week or even a lot of money. For instance, you can easily win 75 to 350 at a time and have. Now, inexplicably the same group of people seem to be winning all the time and we are out in the cold. We have devised a plan to half our expenses. For instance, last night we lost again. Our rule, next week we don't go at all. The following week we will go and if we win, only modestly, go back the next week. If not, boycott the next Monday night again. So, in effect we might go 20 to 26 times a year instead of 45 to 52 times a year. Last couple of years we have hardly ever missed a Monday night. But, we were winning and having more fun. Now, we are aggravated at the same people winning two or three times a night and us nothing. We know it is all luck and on the up and up. Just luck. So we are not necessarily changing our luck by going less, but lowering our potential expenditures yearly. Sorry about burdening you with this long story. The intention of my contacting you were in the first two sentences! Gary

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Tuesday 13 January

By Justin

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"The important thing is not the scale of your own accomplishment, but what you have learned that can help someone else who hasn't yet reached that point, it's still valuable."

I think that is the most logical statement.
I, too have tried numerous times to help others become better people, i.e. be careful with this and that, without being too overprotecting or demanding/naggy, with my friends and whoever. i find out later though that they didn't stay friends with me. Not because of me, but because they had problems that THEY needed to workout (insecurities, being pricks, etc.)

I never intend to hurt anyone, but to only help everyone. . .
people just sometimes don't understand that there is method to one's madness
I just feel that I have so much love and so many blessings in my life, that I want to share it with other people and to be a good example for others too.
I learned later that major sacrifices need to be made in order to help the ones I care for.

I am still a strong person today and never fail to give up hope on others.
Also, NEVER and I repeat, NEVER hold grudges against ANYONE in life. It is most definitely not worth the baggage.

Justin

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Tuesday 06 January

By Monica

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Its amazing how "winners" always impress others, people are fascinated by people they think have it all under control! As if that were possible...



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Tuesday 06 January

By Rex Havoc

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I agree if you never take a chance how can you be lucky.Think of the possibilities not the risk.It could be the difference between success and failure.Or maybe not.

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Tuesday 06 January

By undrgrndgirl

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if this is true...then women should be luckier than men...

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Tuesday 06 January

By WildKAT

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I have incredible luck getting parking spaces near where I want to go and it happens every time. I also find loose change more often than I had every guessed until I read this article. HOWEVER, I have ZERO, and I mean ABSOLUTELY ZERO luck with lotteries, slots and any other game of chance. It got too expensive to continue playing the lottery so I abandoned it. STILL, my luck finding parking spaces persists. I guess the moral of the story is to count one's blessings no matter how they come to you. N'est Pas?

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Tuesday 06 January

By tom

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Winning the lottery has nothing to do with being "lucky" as described by the researcher. The lottery winner's powers of observation has nothing to do with winning the lottery. My brother in law is lucky that way - he wins door prizes, drawings etc at an astonishing rate. Unfortunately he is morally opposed to gambling so will not buy a lottery ticket. On the other hand he is the least observant person I know.

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Tuesday 06 January

By glady

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wildcat is funny about their parking spots they always find,if thats your best luck so be it, i think you think of parking and finding the perfect spot that it just comes naturally...truly a cute way of finding good luck in your life no matter how small of luck it is......smile

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Tuesday 06 January

By monica

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Maybe "lucky"people as a group, are people who tend to be more connected with the world, instead of closed off. Connected peole must have the ability to pay attention to others or there will be no connection. The more connected the more chances that something might turn up...

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Tuesday 06 January

By MP

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I believe luck is random, and involves being at the right place at the right time, with a very miniscule window of opportunity. When you try to convince people that they have control over their "luck", it serves to encourage them to engage in gambling practices such as buying lottery tickets despite ridiculous odds of winning. When people in the U.S. should be seriously trying to save their money to "unlearn" their bad habits of charging, and over-spending, you are doing a disservice to American consumers.

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Wednesday 14 January

By Sarah

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Thanks for everyone's response. On the topic of luck I have to say that I was never one to dream about materialism or think about money, as I aged I thought a little more about money when I realized how cut throat it was out there about it, but never about materialism. In spite of this, my home has doubled in value, weathered the recession rather well, I drive a nice car after my 15 year old one died, save no matter what, changed my career a few times and have found employment in the worst of times. Once I realized just how cut throat it was out there about money, I did make alot of changes for the better; being a woman I'm not as aggressive intrinsically as a man (you would think would be) over certain matters, but I have learned along the way how to save in the best ways, how to invest, etc. It's no quick shot to arrange your finances the best way; it takes some research, time, phone calls, changing, reading articles, but I go for long term investments which is what I think an investment should be. Someone could study stocks all day and still lose.

In any case, I just wanted to say that I have never thought about or looked for money or materialism for a great deal of my life, and it has been brought to my attention that many people do and this doesn't mean they get it. Of course I worked the whole time. What I think is that many have too high of expectations, and to expect means they won't appreciate if they receive.

We can also see how the McMansion owners fared in their dual income mortgages; to me, that was a no brainer to not get involved in any way, or marry based on such expectations; I've supported myself many years where it would have been easy to have another living there, so I don't buy the claim that you have to have two incomes, the higher the better, and marry or get involved based on that; what this really means is that they want more THINGS & MONEY for themselves. This isn't to say that I don't think women should work, but that their income should not be used to pay half a rent or mortgage, or to buy them into marriages. For sure I don't want a love loss accompanying a job loss so this rules out a great deal of people.

What I consider lucky may not be the norm; I have no interest in a fancier lifestyle to prove something to the world; such as is going on - by who you marry and what job they have, etc. The key to the safest marriage, as there will be some problem with anyone is a nice person, because a nice person will be fair. If someone is looking to marry for money and what they can get, they aren't nice, and they won't be fair; it's as simple as that to me.

Unfortunately, our society has become very shallow and greedy, as a result of the breakdown of marriage and sexual "liberation", meaning a man can get the benefits of marriage without having to marry; or a "roommate" with benefits to describe their alliance the most appropriately via a marriage or not. This means women will not be helped by them and will be expected to "move in" with them as a live-in, and split expenses. Whereas they used to be selected for their attractiveness and niceness they are now selected for their jobs and education for what they can "bring to the table", and a man can get a good looking enough woman with the other expectations having been met first.

This has increased the cost of homes and life, to the point of even demanding they pay half the rent or mortgage, only to have it all fall apart as it now has anyway. You can be sure I now have more then a great deal of these supercharged mortgage holder couples, who were able to afford to get into trouble beyond their means to escape. I wouldn't have afforded them that, they would have been much SAFER with me. What they spend on a car I owe on a home. I don't flash money to impress friends, and I don't like the cost of expensive restaurants or just any restaurant on a too frequent basis, nor have I ever bought lattes on a frequent basis. Just because I don't expect doesn't mean I'm not a fighter or a risk taker.

The best dream that could ever happen to you is one you cannot possibly imagine yourself. I think the social changes, and Hollywood showing all these young women with their high rise private offices with views of the city and fancy wardrobes and hairstyles and makeup making a ton of money are heavy contributors of this social greed and high expectations.

In the end, we are seeing there isn't going to be much to be had anyway by many. In spite of this I still see women moving in with men, complaining they don't have a fancier car (as if that crossed my mind at their age), and I know they will be on their own again soon enough, not understanding what their lifestyle will lead to in the future; a lifetime of slavery until they die.

To sum up, I obviously don't have the most, and that was never my goal, if it was, I'd be a lot closer to it, but I have a lot more then working professionals NOW, so that says something as well.

I had an excellent childhood so entrance into the social arena for me as an adult was never based on materialism and money either by my associations with them or how I feel they should associate with me - simply as people...when your job is taken away - what are you anyway?

In any case, these high expectations let Mr. Potter of Its a Wonderful Life have his way, and he has won for good now, and many have lost it all rather permanently. They took away the husband of women, and eventually the "husband" of men - their jobs. After what I've been through, don't expect me to have sympathy, even though I do give to charity things I'm sure aren't too common for them to receive. Expecting women to go through life without a husband is abuse, how can they afford to take a job of opportunity or to go back to school when they don't have any job security or a husband who will protect them financially?. Finally I have to say I do live on the West Coast, which I'm sure is a heavier factor then if I was back where I was raised.

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