Patricia, 45 -- San Francisco, CA

I met my ex-husband's family -- my future in-laws -- a mere three days before my wedding. On the night of our introduction, my fiance and I arrived at the appointed restaurant to meet his dad, stepmom and sister. They'd apparently been there for a while and were already "imbibing."

My ex's father stands up to give me a hello hug, but instead of a friendly, fatherly gesture, he places his one hand in the small of my back nearly on my butt and pulls our hips together in a tight squeeze that was embarrassingly too intimate and almost a completely inappropriate PDA.

What future dad-in-law does that? Apparently, one that dumped his wife a number of years earlier for a woman who was 20 years younger. All I can say was that I was totally shocked and appalled. I should have taken it as a warning I guess. I used to be one of those people who said, "Oh, you're marrying the person not his or her parents." WRONG. Now I would tell people you MUST get to know the parents early and run, run, run away very fast if there are problems of some sort that don't feel right.