"When Harry Met Sally" was a meditation on whether a man and a woman could be friends without sexual tension either ruining the relationship or taking it to another level. Since the film is considered one of the classics of the romantic comedy genre, and ends with Harry and Sally getting hitched, obviously its conclusion was that they couldn't.Others think that they can. Either that or every genuine-seeming male/female platonic relationship is just a sneaky attempt for someone to get someone else into bed. But what do you think?
My best friend is a girl and it's great:
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We end up learning a lot about the opposite sex from our friends. And what better friend to get that information from than one with the equipment and emotional makeup we need boning up on?
Her friends are a potential source of hook-ups
Everyone has a theory as to the best place to meet women: a church, a bar, a website that offers eager young Russians searching for true companionship. But almost anywhere you go with your female best friend, your chance of meeting other gals will improve. Especially if she agrees to be that most mythical of all dating tools – the lady wingman.
Sex takes on many different shapes
Even if you're secure in the knowledge that you don't want to have (or can't have) a sexual relationship with your other-gendered buddy, that doesn't mean there won't be times she does something that makes you want to jump her bones. That's OK, you can channel it later. God gave you a hand and an imagination for a reason.
OK, maybe this wasn't a very good idea:
One of you will develop a debilitating crush on the other
If the friendship lasts long enough, this is inevitable. The only way it won't happen is if you are both extraordinarily hideous. And if that's the case, you should probably just close your eyes and start doing the nasty.
Everyone will wonder why you aren't dating
Comments like "When are the two of you finally going to get together?" are awkward when one or both of you is dating someone else. But they are even more awkward when neither of you is dating someone else.
You will be trying to do the impossible
There is a reason man seeks to climb the mountain that has never been scaled. It is for the glory, and with that glory comes increased opportunities to get laid. While maintaining a long-term male/female friendship is just as difficult as extreme mountaineering, what makes it so hard is that you are refraining from sex that is right in your face. If this type of thrill seeking catches on, humanity will die.


























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Thursday 12 February
By Jutsy
When I voted an unhesitating and unvarnished "no", it was Yes - 52%, No - 48%.
Optimistic at best. Realistically, pussy-whipped liars.
Just because Valentine's Day celebrates the best of "true love" and "good human nature", don't get all hand-holdy and buy-the-world-a-cokey. The chick you're "just good friends" with? Laughs at you and would never have sex with you. Yet someday, you're SURE, she'll realize what you two genuinely have, and she'll dump the meathead asshole for you.
It's OK to have biological responses. You can't PC away instinct, no matter how much Oprah wants you to.
*The exception is the homos. Chicks honestly love them, but really wish they could be just a little straight. (Thanks Weezer).
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Wednesday 18 February
By Osko
Friendship between man and woman:
Women think it's possible.
Men know it's not.
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Thursday 19 February
By Sarah
Both of my best friends are guys. Flat out, and they're the best friendships I've had EVER.
Sexual tension = Yes.
Have things gotten a little hot under the collar? Yes again, and have we 'done it'. Yes.
But, while it does change things, it hadn't broken things, and we can keep it casual!
Thursday 19 February
By JD
I fell for my best guy friend and got rejected so I don't think friendship is strictly sexual
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Wednesday 18 February
By DJ
Yah but YOU still fell for him. proving that friendly relationships between men and woman will forever be riddled with anxiety.
Wednesday 18 February
By Donna
It seems that men and women have very different opinions on this subject. Being a women I can't speak for the men, but as far as I'm concerned women definitely can have close male friends. I have had many close male friends over the years and never brought it to the next level. Laughing, teasing, joking around, these are things you do with friends it doesn't mean you want or have to jump in bed with them. Why do men always see it that way? I guess that's why there are men and women. Totally opposite.
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Thursday 19 February
By bm87
For the last 10+ years my best friend is a girl who I have no attraction to. I am not in love with her but she makes me comfortable. She fell for me and now Im stuck in a rutt because we work together also. I don't want to cut her off as a friend because we are close. She says go for it on other women but I know she really doesnt want that. So here I am getting older and staying painfully single! There are men who have best girls as best friends AND WANT NO SEX!
Thursday 19 February
By Sam
"I have had many close male friends over the years and never brought it to the next level."
They were gay.
Thursday 19 February
By Nikki
Guys and girls can be just friends. I have a vast number of guy friends for being a girl. Some yeah I have fallen for but there are some there's completely no attraction to. How I see it, there's two types of close guys frends: ones you inevitably fall for and the ones that become kind of like a big brother. I have both and I wouldnt have it any other way
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Wednesday 01 September
By ItsTrue
How I see it, there's two types of close guys frends: ones you inevitably fall for and the ones that become kind of like a big brother. I have both and I wouldnt have it any other way...
You're in denial, plain and simple. You don't realize that you falling for them makes it more than "just friends," also those you usually fall for want nothing to do with you sexually, and those who you see as nothing more than a big brother are the ones who fall for you. Open your eyes.
Thursday 19 February
By John Allan
BM87-
You're just friends but you won't date anyone because you don't think she'll stay your friend? Sounds like she's more than just a friend.. Just my two cents.
Anyway, it depends on the people involved. If neither of them feels chemistry then there is no reason they can't be just friends.
Personally.. I tend to develop feelings for my female friends. Not all of em, just the close ones.
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Thursday 19 February
By Meesha
Maybe it is different in college, but I have about 30 guy friends, none of them more than just friends. Most of them are just friends, some seem more or less like the brothers I've never had. I'm pretty sure none of them would ever want sex with me, mainly because they are all out trying to find other girls on campus, andthey don't seem to see or treat me as a girl, even though I am a very girly person. Sure, several of my guy friends were crushes at one time, but every time it seems as if they like me back, it just turns out he still wants to just be friends, which confuses the heck out of me, but I'm okay with that. So at least on my side, sometimes I do see sparks about why I like my friends individually, sometimes I might have a crush for a little longer, but it always goes away knowing they're just friends.
The article mentioned girls hooking guys up with other girls- I have totally done that! Now, I wish it was the opposite, and my guy friends could hook me up with other guy friends, but nooo, they don't seem to have time for that, since they're all SO busy with other more important things, such as trying to find their own girlfriends, etc.
But yeah, I was confused reading this article, since for the most part I have SO many guy friends in which there is absolutely no potential-relationship future, it made me laugh.
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Thursday 19 February
By Lynzee
One of my best friends is a guy, and we have been best friends for about 8 years now. I think that at different times in our lives we have had feelings for one another (he had a crush on me in high school, when I didn't even know him...I had a crush on him when we first met, before we became close friends). Despite this, we have a LOT in common, and we get along great, which is what led to us becoming best friends! Over time, we have both come to love eachother like family, and have a deep respect for eachother. There is NO sexual tension, and in my opinion, he is, and always will be, better as a friend than a boyfrind! I love him dearly, and will always cherish his friendship. Since he started dating is current girlfriend, I don't really see him anymore, becuase she is threatened by our friendship, but nothing will ever cause us to stop being friends! So...I think that men and women can be friends!
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Thursday 19 February
By Justin
Just your statement that the girlfriend is preventing you two from spending time together, and you will always be friends and nothing can stop that, shows your obsession for this man and contradicts your whole theory of he-she friendships. Rather fill us in on the whole story in which you left parts out to protect your whole "justifiable reason' why his girlfriend is at fault and you have no involvement for causing her bias towards you and him spending time together. We would like to hear more detail about the time you tried to push beyond friendship and how he negated this.
Thanks,
Dr. Truth
Thursday 19 February
By Stephanie
i believe in Justin's comment. Talk about contradicting your own self. honestly, it contradicts the article, too.
How can a male and a female be friends without developing feelings for one another?
You two obviously developed feelings for both of each other, and who knows if you guys will fall for each other again [once he is through with his girlfriend]. Just because you guys are "just friends" now doesn't account for the future or for the past. there was obviously something there.
so how can you sit there and write that males and females can "just be friends" when you say that you and he had feelings for each other?
ridiculous.
Thursday 19 February
By Katy
i have guy friends who i've been friends with since elementary school. i've never had feelings for any of my male buddies, i'm kinda like a guy with boobs to them. people always accuse me of flirting, i'm sick of having to point out how painfully obvious it is when i am flirting.
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Monday 09 March
By cal
u will meet someone who doesn't, not all guys cheat. I feel the same way about women. I've never cheated, but it's happened to me and it is a lousy thing for someone to do. It ruins trust in future relationships.
Thursday 19 February
By Lee
I think the sexual tension is inevitable, and at a certain point in the friendship either the guy or the girl feels a certain attraction to the other that is beyond friendship. Until a clear boundary is established it is difficult for a guy and a girl to be just friends.
For us guys, I think we can agree that we'd jump in bed with a gal friend who was attractive if we had the chance given that the friendship would not be jeopardized. I don't think any of us seek out friendship with females for the sake of it in the first place.
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Thursday 26 March
By Justin R
I would have to agree with that. I believe that in most cases, even if you are "just friends," a guy would, in most cases, sleep with her if it wasn't going to affect their friendship (assuming you are attracted to her). You can be attracted to someone but only want to be friends.
Thursday 19 February
By Nabexis
The issue here is not wheither or not they can be "just friends." The human mind is hard wired to always be looking for an attractive mate. Not only that, but the clothes that all the women were wearing were begging "LOOK! DOWN HERE! CLEAVAGE!"
That's the point of those kinds of clothes (trust me, I'm a woman :P) The men probably wouldn't have been looking had the women been wearing clothes that covered up that area. Anyways, it's not really anything to be worrying about. Most of our minds are in the gutter. It's not something "new."
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