According to a recent study, men are not so great at telling when women are hitting on them and prefer the direct approach such as "Your place or mine?" This is all well and good in fantasyland where every woman in a bar is a super-aggressive nymphomaniac, but in the real world it can't hurt to develop your Spidey sense for when a girl wants to get tangled in your web. So we asked women to tell us their moves for letting a guy know they're interested and used their answers to compile the top five ways to tell if a woman is hitting on you.
5. She's using flirtatious body language.
Some signs that she's into you: fondling a wine glass stem, cigarette, finger, or other phallic-shaped object; fiddling with jewelry; playing with her hair; licking her lips; or dangling her shoe off her foot. Get a full list of flirtatious body language here.
4. She's touching you.
She touches your arm or shoulder, finds an excuse to feel your clothing or put her fingers on your chest, or she keeps brushing up against you? Women deal with enough unwanted sexual attention not to invite any extra, so if she breaches the physical contact barrier, she probably wants to get close to you.
Read the top three ways to know a woman is hitting on you after the jump.
3. She's disrobing.
Emily, 29, snared her current boyfriend by "going to the bathroom, mussing up my hair, putting on fresh lip gloss and taking off my cardigan, so that I was wearing only a tank top -- making myself as post-coital-looking as was legally possible."
Women are aware of their boobs and the effect they have on men. So if a woman starts out the night in a cardigan sweater and is now in a skimpy tank top, it's probably because she wants you to notice. Also, if you step away and come back to find she's applied a fresh coat of lip gloss or fixed her hair, she's probably trying to look nice for you.
2. Extended eye contact.
Women aren't always taught how to make the first move, so even if she isn't comfortable coming out with a cheesy pickup line, she probably has the nerve to tell you how she feels with her eyes. If she holds eye contact for more than a few seconds, and ends with a coy smile, she wants you to come talk to her.
She might find excuses to hang around in your general area, like standing next to you at the bar when she orders her drinks. Erin, 25, says, "I usually try to talk up a friend or someone near him because I'm kind of a p*ssy when it comes to talking to guys I actually am interested in. But for the most part, this has backfired on me."
1. She's talking to you.
According to Lauren, 26, "Seriously, if I take the time and energy to leave my bar stool and/or friends after a hard day's work to approach you and ask you some bullsh*t question in a bar, it means I'm interested!" If a woman approaches you with a seemingly irrelevant question in a social situation, odds are very high that she is just making excuses to meet you.
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Thursday 27 August
By Secretfox
I hate to say it but men are as dumb as a post when it comes to picking up on women's signals. I finally had to tell my husband, "Look dude, I really like you" and literally I could see the cogs turning. Why is this? I thought I was sending all the right signals, flirting and such but he continued to sit there like a moron it sank in that I really did like him, but I thought I might die of old age before he got up the guts to kiss me!
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Thursday 27 August
By Vicki
I think the author missed the most time-honored way to flirt with the opposite sex. First eye contact, then SMILE! It works for both men and women. It indicates you're friendly, approachable and would be open to get to know someone better. If the person is receptive to your smile, this signals that the talking can begin. If not, no harm, no rejection. Added bonus: You're far more attractive (both sexes) when you smile.
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Wednesday 02 September
By al
Im 70 yrs old and my wife says woman hit on me all the time but im to dumb to know
lol oh well im married anyway
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Wednesday 02 September
By dan daman
Listen up fellas ! Women are not motivated by good looks! I am usually in the top 10 percent of good looking males in most any bar scene (no bragging I get looks all night) and I have partied in bars literally thousands of hours. My take is this: Women will step right over a hot guy to get to an average one. It is a case study I have spent the last 20 years on and you can bet there is a wealth of proof! Why is this I do not know. I have been told on numerous occasions that my looks are too intimidating to approach. I understand intimidating but I want to be with someone who is hot! Anyway guys trust someone who knows! Never think she is too good or looks too good! You have a better shot than the hot guy you can bank on it! By the way if women ever do approach I make it an absolute point to treat them like the guys that approach them REAL NASTY with the WHAT??? WHO ARE YOU>>> DO I KNOW YOU? TRASH...THAT SHATTERS THEM!!!!
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Friday 04 September
By galpal
More and more when I do any of these suggestions, I've been baffled by rejection - and the worst part of the rejection is that I've found that my competition is another man. So, if the guy you're interested in doesn't respond back it's probably because he's gay.
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Friday 11 September
By Kris Kross
As for me, most of the time the physical appearance of a guy always gets me and nothing more. So I usually approach him and say it straight to his face that he's hot or what and then request him for a kiss. Then and there, that's the only time I would know if I like to know him more or not. If his not onto me, that's the risk to take, at least you had his kiss to remember him. Then just move on.
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Saturday 12 September
By kat
Gosh Miranda, I think this article was simply to point out to guys when we women (who are not whores) are trying to actually let a guy know that we are interested. I don't think I am "tricking" anyone into liking me, and I hardly think that is possible anyway. The article does not suggest to fix your lip gloss for the whole room, or to ask for help for a home project from the whole bar..I think women and men have so much normal interaction,these are ways a woman may be sending out some subtle clues. Where is the romance is telling someone straight out? If a woman is doing these things, she is not playing games, she wants you to ask her out :)
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