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Here's this week's most outrageous relationship red flag story from the editors of The Little Black Blog of Big Red Flags.

The Story: Having been out of a relationship quite recently, I thought I'd take the high road when I started dating the next girl and inform her that I wasn't able to be in a committed dating scenario right now. I said if she wanted to hang out and eat dinners, go on hikes and have any nighttime fun, that was great, but I needed to be upfront because I didn't want to feel responsible for ignoring her desire for a relationship.

Being the wholesome girl she was, she said that she wouldn't get into an intimate situation with me because she's "not that kinda girl." We hung out a number of times. She stayed over one night, and nothing happened apart from a bit of making out.

Soon after that things all changed.

I found out that she'd follow my life on Facebook and would count the days since we'd last hung out. One time, I forgot that I said "maybe" we could hang out, and I ended up staying out of town with my buddy. That night I had three voicemails, four emails and eight texts telling me how angry she was that I'd blown her off. I truly felt that my "maybe" was exactly that: a "maybe." Still, I felt bad, so I called to apologize.

After we talked, she forwarded me an email that her best friend had sent her when she had asked for advice about the situation. Even the friend told her she needed to chill out. In fact, her friend said, "Tell him you're sorry for being a bitch and take off his pants!"

After this I distanced myself a little thinking she might chill. Alas, no. Last night she turned up at my house knocking on the door wanting an explanation as to why I hadn't seen her for two weeks. When she left my place I immediately deleted her on Facebook and asked her not to contact me anymore.

Then she sent me an email apologizing for showing up at my home, or "sanctuary," as she called it, and said a bunch of crazy stuff like, "The loss of your respect for me [is] my greatest loss. ... I hope you can find a way to remember the times we spent together. ... I am saddened that I have made any moment in your life any more difficult than it already was ... You are an incredible man. ... I hope you find your happiness and peace soon."

Hmm, should I accept her Facebook friend request again? Don't worry. I won't ...

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