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Because sometimes we just don't heed the warning signs, here are the most outrageous relationship red flag stories from November, as received by the editors of The Little Black Blog of Big Red Flags.

10. She's way too into you -- in a creepy way.

The Story: While we were in high school, this chick asked my friend out and when he went to pick her up she gave him a tour of her parent's house. When they got to her room, he discovered that she'd built a giant shrine to him on her wall. He still took her on the date.

9. She doesn't understand that you broke up.

The Story: I went out with a girl a few times (maybe eight?) over three and a half months, and finally said I was no longer interested in trying to build a relationship. She called me that night to "See what I was doing." She called me the next night to see if "Maybe I wanted to go for dinner?" The best part was she's unemployed, so going out for dinner meant, "Go on a date, but you have pay because I'm broke." Clingy, broke and ignoring a break up? All BIG red flags.

8. She gets mad at you when you try to do nice things for her.

The Story: I'd been dating this girl for about a month when I had the opportunity to take her out to a concert of Celtic music at a pub downtown. She and I both liked that kind of thing so I decided it would be a fun surprise. We were standing in line to get the tickets and I asked her, "So do you have any particular time you need to be home tonight?" She said no. So, I said, "Great, I've added a stop on our itinerary for the evening and I think you're going to love it." She asked, "Oh? What is it?" and I said, "It's a surprise." To which she replied, wide-eyed and angry-browed, "I DON'T LIKE SURPRISES! TELL ME NOW OR I'M NOT GOING!" So, I told her about the concert and she said, "Oh. Well. No, I've got other stuff to do." Yikes.

7. She constantly needs her mommy's opinion.

The Story: My ex-girlfriend had this annoying habit of calling her mom for literally anything and everything. Not sure which dryer setting would be best? She'd call mom. Trying to choose a salad dressing? That's a mom call. Wondering about an inane family fact? Mom will know! I understand mothers and daughters like to share a lot but it was like this chick couldn't make any decision of her own.

6. She takes pleasure in telling you about the other guys she's been with.

The Story: It's a big red flag if the girl you've been dating/sleeping with intermittently (for a year and a half) continues to break up with you and get back with you. It's an even bigger red flag if she continues to pursue others during those periods of time together. The biggest red flag is when she tells you about those pursuits when you simply ask, "How was your weekend?"

5. She moves way too fast without ever meeting you.

The Story: A girl I was talking to online, whom I'd never met and had absolutely no intention of ever meeting, told me that she already planned on introducing me to her friends, bringing me to family functions and having me live with her.

4. She embodies ultimate red flag trifecta: controlling, manipulative and crazy.

The Story: My girlfriend and I took a trip to Amsterdam during which I realized she may or may not have been crazy. She brought a set of dice with her and insisted we play some game she liked pretty much everyday. Because she'd played more than I had, she usually beat me, but, every so often, I'd win. At this, she'd go absolutely f-ing crazy, screaming at me for beating her, accusing me of taunting her. Then she'd give me the silent treatment until I apologized. Still, every day she wanted to play the stupid game. I started refusing, but then she'd get mad at me for that. So after a day of sightseeing, we'd play, I'd accidentally win and she'd yell at me. Great vacation. Awesome girl.

3. She's really, REALLY controlling, manipulative and crazy.

The Story: Christmas was coming up and my girlfriend of three years decided it was essential that we send out a joint holiday card. Which would have been fine, I guess, if she didn't get the idea solely because my brother and his girlfriend were doing so and since they hadn't been together as long, if we didn't send out cards it meant I didn't really love her or something. I thought the whole thing was pretty stupid -- we weren't married or even engaged -- but I complied to make her happy. We ordered about 500 cards and sent them to every person we could possibly think off -- even people we hadn't talked to in years. What was really going on was she was jealous of my brother and his girlfriend, and also trying to keep up with her soon-to-be married sorority sisters. We broke up a year later and I still have about 200 stupid Christmas cards with our picture on them.

2. She pushes you into the oven.

The Story: One morning I made breakfast for my girlfriend, who I was living with at the time. I was putting something into the oven very slowly, as not to burn myself. We had a tiny, narrow kitchen and the oven was at the entrance, so when my girlfriend told me she wanted a glass of water, I asked her to wait for just a second until I finished because she wouldn't have been able to squeeze by. Apparently, I wasn't doing things quick enough and she couldn't wait, so, after yelling at me, she ended up going to get the water herself and pushed me as she went by, right into the oven. At least I got out of the relationship with just a burn scar on my hand ... it could have been far worse.

1. She ditches you on Valentine's Day to hang out with her friends.

The Story: OK, It took me awhile to get this one off my chest. I was dating this girl for about a month or so, and we finally made it official. A month later, Valentine's Day rolls around. Having not had a girlfriend for a number of years, I was in a very giving mood and made reservations at Buca Di Beppo. Then, when I showed up at her door with a nice bouquet of flowers she asked if we could meet her co-workers at the bar instead of going to dinner. Apparently, one of the chicks she sees every day at work was moving in three weeks and she just had to hang out with her on Valentine's Day. Once at the bar she pretty much ignored me all night until, around 11:30, she informed me that she was cool, I could leave and one of her friends would take her home. But we could hang out tomorrow. Great, Happy Valentine's Day.

[The LBB Editors' note: This was our favorite post of November not just because it received the most comments from our readers, but mainly because the guy who submitted it was oblivious to his own red-flag-worthy behavior. Seriously, Buca Di Beppo? Unless you were planning on hiding a tennis bracelet in that 20-lb. bowl of pasta, did you really think that taking your new girlfriend to an Italian chain restaurant that specializes in family-style was giving?]

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