Nick Waters went where very few men have gone before when he decided to watch a string of "chick flicks" in hopes of better understanding the opposite sex.But then he took it a step further, deciding to document the whole experience on a blog, entitled 30 Chick Flicks in 30 Days: One Guy's Exploration of Romance Through Movies Loved by Women.
Waters, 28, is a regular guy living in a small town in southern Oklahoma who has been married for seven years to his wife, Nicci.
"Nicci and I were watching a chick flick last July, on her birthday," says Waters, "and I turned to her and asked, 'Wouldn't it be cool to watch 30 chick flicks in 30 days?'"
Nicci was thrilled by the idea, and before he could second-guess himself, the idea was sprung. "I brainstormed with some trusted people and had them help me build a Web site," he says.
Waters had rules for the selection of movie titles and how each movie would be viewed and reviewed.
"Once the Web site went up, I only needed people to suggest movies to watch," says Waters. "I didn't have any real requirements for the movies The only requirement was that the films be from 2007 to the present. I left it up to everyone else to decide for me what they thought a chick flick is."
Waters whittled the list of eligible titles down to 30 and on Jan. 15, 2010, beginning with "Waitress," he watched one of the chick flicks each day with Nicci. That was part of the deal, says Waters, "So if I had questions or wanted to discuss things I saw, I not only had a woman's perspective, but I had my wife's perspective."
Some of the other titles included "Mamma Mia!," "Nights in Rodanthe," "27 Dresses," "Sex and the City," "Leap Year" and "Made of Honor." At least for some of the viewings, Waters had company. "We had watch parties for several of the films," says Waters. "It varied from one to two people, and for some we had up to 20 people, mixed gender."It's hard to envy Waters for what he must have endured. ("Nights in Rodanthe"!) And we suspect that most guys won't be quick to follow his lead, although Waters encourages others to take the 30 Chick Flicks Challenge. But Waters says everyone has been supportive, "even the macho guys who said there's no way they'd do it."
The challenge wrapped up on Saturday, Feb. 13, when Waters and Nicci watched "He's Just Not That Into You."
So what does a man say after getting bludgeoned with romantic comedies, tearful embraces and estrogen? "Love is tender," says Waters, summing up what he took from the 30 films. "And any real relationship is based on forgiveness, compassion and vulnerability."
Waters tells us that people have suggested a corresponding challenge for Nicci. After what Waters just went through, we suggest that she begin watching action flicks with him, beginning tomorrow, starting with "Blade Runner."


























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Wednesday 17 February
By mjdzfun
I could never be with a guy like this but if he makes her happy, well God bless.
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Wednesday 17 February
By cindy
why not? because he is too nice?
Wednesday 17 February
By jaysshadows
I love that he is that loving to his wife that he is willing to try to understand her better. Communication is the key to relationships. The women I know who are involved with so-called macho guys who are too insensitive to bother with something like this, always seem to end up miserable, feeling neglected and alone in the end.
Wednesday 17 February
By gposner29
Wouldn't they have gotten more from 30 days of porn?
Wednesday 17 February
By Reverend
Oh please. What a dope.
Wednesday 17 February
By Gloria
If this man is getting his advise on relationship and or women from somebody's preconceived ideal for a show then he's an idiot and I would advise all women to stay clear of this idiot and any other man like him!
Wednesday 17 February
By xqzmoi1122
I just want to say that first of all I am offended by the term, Chick Flick -- like the film isn't worth a man's time -- but if you can't beat 'em, join 'em. I've got a name for those stupid moronic movies that only appeal to men and their 12-year-old mentality humor: Dick Flicks.
If a man is so insecure in his manhood that he's afraid to watch a relationship film, he is truly a pathetic soul.
Wednesday 17 February
By Lauren
Same here. It would be like women watching pro-wrestling, and pro-wrestling only, to understand the nature of men. Don't judge gender by their lazy, generic depictions in the media. Many women do not watch chick flicks for being so infantilizing and frivolous and appealing to the lowest common denominator of femininity.
Wednesday 17 February
By thewritingfiend@aol.com
I don't get it. Why couldn't you be with a guy like him? As a guy I'm curious.
Wednesday 17 February
By M.E,
I get that he did it to better understand women specially his wife. but what I have a quirk with is that they were all romantic COMEDIES. What about The Notebook? and there are some great classic romantic fields that would've been great to view even if they were from before 2007. I think the whole watching parties may have taken away from the experience, not allowed it to be as personal. Overall I applaud his attempt at trying to understand the opposite sex.
Wednesday 17 February
By Rod Man
Why not? I'm guessing you're one of those chicks who ONLY dates "bad guys" who treat her poorly?????
Thursday 18 February
By Mam
I would not WANT a man like this. My husband and I have been married for 25 years. I think it is quiet amusing that one would think they could better understand anyone by watching movies. How about just simply sending time together.Paying attention to what eachother enjoys.
Friday 19 February
By Reason
Well this was sure as hell a stupid idea and a great waste of time.
1. The only thing to understand about women is that you can never really understand them. Women don’t even understand women.
2. You sure as hell are not going to understand women through 30 pieces of fantasies where women behave better, they seem more tamed, and are easier to fall in love with because they are given lines and playing a role. They are completely different in the real world.
3. The only thing to understand about women is that they are flaky, contradict themselves, liars, manipulative, they love drama, they are drama, they make up rules as they go along in their relationships but then break those rules and make new ones up, they love being complicated, they are the biggest upholders to the double standard, and they love love love playing the victim. Anyone who knows women can just go on and on but it leads to the same thing. Bottom line, whatever women say they are looking for in a man, do the exact opposite.
4. This guy was married, and he is still trying to understand women? You would think he would have married her because he does understand women, more importantly his wife. So does this prove my point that you can never really understand women? of course, either way, the only woman he needs to "understand" is his wife. Who gives a s*** about other women.
5. But of course, let’s face it, it’s a woman’s’ world. They are the ones with all the jobs now, the law is designed to protect them, and they can say or do anything and get away with it (play out the victim). If this guy would have learned anything from those movies especially Sex and the City, is that all of these movies make men look bad and they just give women bad ideas on how to be even more evil. If a woman is driving around an expensive car is because they scammed a man out of it one way or another and the law is on their side. Women can never really do anything on their own. Women need to just grow up.
Wednesday 17 February
By MR.RICK
im a man and i actually saw most of those movies. the thing is, i didnt watch them to learn anything about women. if you have to learn about the opposite sex through fictional made up movies, then you arent worthy of any woman. every woman isnt dianne lane and you arent richard gere. there is no cookie cutter method. i have learned something new from every relationship i have ever been in.
you get experience from life, not from movies.
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Wednesday 17 February
By Angi9349
AMEN MR. RICK! If only I could find a man with that thought process but understands what is most important in a relationship...
Wednesday 17 February
By hatesgames
Right on Mr. Nick, right on.
Wednesday 17 February
By Benmgb
But at the same time, every woman is different, but they all like a nice smack on the butt ;) kiddddddddding!
Wednesday 17 February
By Michelle
Well said!!
Wednesday 17 February
By Andia
I have to agree on that.
Wednesday 17 February
By danielle
i've read a few of everyones comments. yall shouldn't give the mansuch a hard time for trying to understand a women better. i think itsa great idea. yes the movies may be fictional but women like thembecause they relate to the movies in one way or another. or they seewhat the man in the movie is doing and wishes like hell she couldfind a man like that or even half like that. you dont have to bemushy all the time hell we rather you weren't. but every now and thenwould be great. if your a man and your wondering if your doing greatin your relationship just ask her i promise she will love to tellyou.