Mar 16th 2010 By Jeremy Taylor
It was once the norm that men either dated women roughly their own age or, if not, younger women
. (And if it was the latter, their friends would slap them on the back and say, "You old dog!")
However, in the era of MILFs
, it is becoming socially acceptable for just about anyone over the age of 18 to date just about anyone else over 18.
In fact, after crunching a lot of numbers, the folks at OkTrends
, the blog for the dating site OkCupid
, have come to the conclusion that guys might be better off dating older women
This contradiction between tradition and a bunch of fancy-looking, data-driven graphs has left us confused. So we want to know what you think the ideal age difference is in a relationship. Read on for the pros and cons of robbing the cradle or being robbed from your cradle.
Older Man/Younger Woman
What's the ideal age difference for a relationship?
|Much older man -- eight or more years||9918 (15.6%)|
|Slightly older man -- three to seven years||26840 (42.2%)|
|About the same -- zero to two years ||15630 (24.6%)|
|Slightly older woman -- three to seven years||8457 (13.3%)|
|Much older woman -- eight or more years||2723 (4.3%)|
For the most part, men are more financially secure when they are older, whereas women are better-looking when they are younger. History suggests wealthy men and good-looking women are attracted to each other.
There were probably quite a few guys in their 30s and 40s who felt like they had taken a wrong turn somewhere in their life when they were forced to explain the significance of Corey Haim
to their 20-something girlfriends.
Roughly the same age
It makes sense that folks around the same age would have an easier time relating to one another. Also, with the average age spread between married couples at a little less than two years, it makes it easier socially to have a partner around your age.
When both people in a relationship are of similar ages, nobody is working out any parental issues. What's the fun of that?
Older Woman/Younger Man
As mentioned, OkCupid drew up a lot of pretty-looking graphs
that suggest guys should go for older women. But we'll sum up their conclusion right here: Older women like to get it on.
If you want to find a relationship that eventually bears children, there are biological reasons you should stay away from older women. Also, our poster couple for this type of relationship is no longer together. Though we should admit that Ms. Sarandon is now dating a 31-year-old ping-pong-bar owner
, freeing Tim Robbins up to explore his inner Michael Douglas. So to spare yourself the indignity of being replaced by a spry young table-tennis tycoon, stay away from the cougars.
Do you have any personal experience with a May-December relationship that did or did not work out? Let us know in the comments.