Apr 8th 2010 By Jeremy Taylor

Men Who Are True to Themselves Have Better Romantic Relationships

Our happy hour fact to amaze your drinking buddies with.

Those who have the ability to view themselves objectively and behave in a way that is consistent with their beliefs get more out of romantic relationships.

Researchers at Ohio State University gave 62 college-age couples three separate tests pertaining to their personalities and relationship health. They found a clear correlation between those possessing "dispositional authenticity" -- which more or less means "the ability to stay true to yourself" -- and those reporting positive romantic relationships.

People with dispositional authenticity are more intimate with their partners and usually display fewer destructive relationship behaviors. Interestingly, whereas men who have this trait usually date women who are the same way; women with dispositional authenticity are no more likely to have a partner who is true to himself.

This discrepancy is responsible for the plot of many romantic comedies and perhaps the entire chick-lit genre.

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Sunday 11 April

By Seriously

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Bitter much, Sir??? LOL

Sunday 11 April

By julie

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WELL IF THE ONLY WOOD IWAS GETTING WAS FIREWOOD, AND THE ONLY CHICKS I COULD RELATE TO ATE HAY AND LIVED IN THE BARN ID BE PRETTY BITTER TOO lol

Sunday 11 April

By Bird

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This is about basic human nature. All humans (men and women) want to be loved, wanted, needed, appreciated, and admired in some regard for who they REALLY are as a person. That is BASIC human nature. Shallow people (men and women) will go after traits in a partner that are self-serving disregarding the "truth" of the person's nature. I am told I am an extremely attractive woman and some guys will go after me because of that alone. That doesn't fly because I am true to WHO I am as a person. Same in reverse for a woman going after handsome or rich men for those qualities alone. It's all about the truth. By being true to who you really are, you attract and/or are drawn to those who are true to who they really are as a person. I don't want to be loved or appreciated because I am attractive. I want to be loved for my TOTAL being. Men want the same. We really want the same things and it isn't that hard. Shallow people will eventually wind up in the shallow end of the dating pool with their kind...in theory anyway. Unfortunately, many years are wasted until the lesson is learned. I happen to shy away from rich, good-looking or bad boy types unless they bring a WHOLE lot more imortant things to the table. I'll take a blue collar (even monetarily poor), hard-working, honest, loving, loyal, unselfish and what most would consider a homely man (by society's standards not mine because I find men beautiful from within more often) any day over a great looking rich jerk. Perhaps I am the exception based on some of the men's comments above but it's all true.

Sunday 11 April

By stick4013

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Harley, fast cars, good tuned guitars and all here it goes ...................
A Simple Song of Freedom Richard Stickney July 2009

Love like the river flows not knowing where it goes seeking what it does not know but cannot stop its flow just like a clock passing by time.

Making the flowers grow kissing the earth below letting lovers know just as each know how they know that they know love true abides inside.

The beginning of us and the end of us folds into the middle of us just like the water turns when the rain comes to find itself again.

Seeking a dream not clearly seen but still reaching for a place for a face that is seeking for a place to join and be clearly seen.

Feeling the touch of your taste knowing we have no time to waste but still cannot be driven by haste driven only by faith.

Water and music belong in us they are part of us they help us along telling us all along saying so in every song - Jump, this is your chance to join in the dance.

What if our eyes meet and we melt into one? What if we feel the peace and the promised love? What if in an instant what we pray for becomes? What happened to the past, already gone?

What was started has become. -Richard '09

Sunday 11 April

By Chess

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Very nice lyrics..

Sunday 11 April

By KatieCouric'sNemesis

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It was either Dear Abby or Ann Landers (they were twin sisters) who said:

Any woman can get married if she lowers her standards far enough.

Sunday 11 April

By CHESS

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So basically, men who are happy with themselves are more prepared to share happiness with a woman. Acceptance and unconditional love by parents scores high here..Also, this sounds like a general thing that could be applied to anyone. it really IS basic human nature we are talking about here..

Sunday 11 April

By Ain't It Wonderful

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The problem seems to be this. Women marry a man, knowing he is a mess. However, from the beginning, she THINKS she can change all those "bad" traits in him, and turn him into Mr.Perfect. Well girls, it doesn't work like that. We are what we are. And men marry a woman, knowing she doesn't like to cook, doesn't like doing dishes, laundry, etc. However, we think that marriage will domesticate her, and she will, over night, become this little angel who, simply worships everything about us. Again, it does not work this way. Women have very definate likes and dislikes and are very resistant to variations of those desires. Men don't give a damn what happens today and ASSUME that tomorrow, all things will be better and his wife will forgive and hopefully forget all his indiscretions from yesterday. Silly but true. So, the best thing is to find yourself a "person" who has few expectations and feels that life is what you make it,and nothing more. Life is way too short to dwell on such things as being ugly, rich, fat, blonde, poor, and on and on. Just find someone who you really "like" and kick back and try to laugh it off.

Sunday 11 April

By Ur Inner Voice

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Is that why you don't like your mother? LOL!

Sunday 11 April

By Lisa

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LOL - men who can't get a "chick" think this myth is true - look around you - are your married buddies abusers and druggies? Your dad an abuser? brother, cousins are abusers, also? Stop using that tired line as an excuse to make you feel better, as to why "chicks" you want are with men who intimidate you, are better looking than you, make more $$ than you, etc. If you're referring to women or girls as chicks, I'm thinking you'll turn out to be a wife-beater. Bet you wear the trademark T-Shirt, too, don't you? HA HA HA!

Sunday 06 June

By lucille c

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We as women love to be with a man whho doesnt control us as property but as his mate (soul-mate). One who can share ownership in the relationship and where it's going. Don't sit down on me and let me do all the work. In simple terms I'm your lady and you are my man so keep that romance alive show me just how much you care and trust me as I take your words as law and never treat me as a material object.Every woman and man is destined for great love and happiness. Get rid of the backbiting friends pay close attention to friends who conducts behavior iin a too friendly way with your mate. There is someone always waiting for a good woman or man.