Evan Seinfeld with Tera PatrickEvan Seinfeld is the ultimate modern renaissance man. The one-time singer/bassist for New York hardcore heroes Biohazard and star of the HBO prison drama "Oz" married (and divorced) porn star Tera Patrick, while creating a pornographic empire of his own over the last several years.

Seinfeld is currently dating Colombian-born, Spanish-raised rising porn starlet Lupe Fuentes and just launched Rockstarpornstar.com (extremely NSFW), which serves as a one-stop shop for fans of his XXX alter-ego, Spyder Jonez.

Spyder is none-too-shy about discussing the volume of porn stars he's slept with ("more off-camera than on," he points out) -- a number that would emasculate Gene Simmons and Wilt Chamberlain.

We posed a question to the X-rated entrepreneur: "How did a regular guy like you literally charm the pants off some of the world's hottest women? And can I do it too?"

Keep reading for Seinfeld's five rules for courting and, yes, conquering a porn actress.

Evan Seinfeld Biohazard OzIronically, Confidence Over Cockiness
"If there's one recurring thing that women like, it's confidence. Confidence isn't cockiness and it isn't something you can pretend to have. It really comes from inside of you. It's like a method actor has to really believe he is the character he wants to portray, otherwise it doesn't come across.

"Those guys have that book, 'The Game.' They make a few interesting points, but they make it like a game, like you're being somebody you're not and trying to put on some act. It sounds like the asinine character that Michael Douglas played in Matthew McConaughey's travesty of a movie, 'Ghosts of Girlfriends Past'. ... A girl takes one look at a guy and she's made up her mind 95 percent if she's gonna f**k you or not by the way you carry yourself."

In other words, Seinfeld says, "Be a power guy. Do whatever it is you do, all the way."

Know Your Role
"Recognize that you're a civilian, and she's in the trenches. Don't be a fan. Some girls f**k their fans, some girls are willing to f**k a fan, but they want to f**k a guy ...

"They want to be the center of attention because they're hot, not because they're a porn star. Tell her you like her smile. Tell her you like her t*ts or her ass. But don't tell her, 'I liked you in '10-Man C*m Slam.'" (Just incredibly NSFW.)

No Judgments
"Act like you don't care that they do porn. Or maybe you don't even know. Believe me, they know they do porn. They don't need your corroboration. When they get up in the morning and sell [their bodies] for money, all the guys who live in the building are like [imitates gorilla noise], ya know ...

"Talk to them about who was on 'Dancing With the Stars' tonight. Make normal conversation. A lot of these girls just want to feel normal. You're not in the business, so don't act like you know a thing or two about a thing or two."

Don't Be "Captain Save-a-Ho"
"Captain Save-a-Ho's the guy who tells the girl that she's too good for this, and if she was your girlfriend, you wouldn't make her do what she does or you'd help her get out of this business. Because, really, that's about a guy's insecurity -- not being able to handle what the girl does. She knows what she does. If she really wanted to get out of it and find some regular guy to pay her bills, she probably would [have] already."

You Can Do It, Put Your Back Into It

"Porn girls like to be dominated in bed ... They don't want to be made love to. They don't want to be held. So save that for the girl from your high school. Honestly, I don't think anybody really wants that."


Certainly all sage advice, but for our part we can't help wondering if being a TV and Rock Star doesn't also tilt the scales a bit in one's favor when doing the courtly dance with adult performers...