We've all experienced bizarre dreams in which people we know look like someone else or we get freaky with an unappealing co-worker. But are those subconscious thoughts that zap through our brains at night really relevant in our waking hours?
Yes, according to Gillian Holloway, an internationally recognized dream expert with over 20 years of experience interpreting dreams under her belt.
In her soon-to-be-released book "The Complete Dream Book of Love and Relationships: Discover What Your Dreams and Intuition Reveal About You and Your Love Life,"
Holloway uses her analysis of over 30,000 actual dreams to get to the bottom of what our dreams say about our romantic relationships.
And it's not all chick stuff. "To my surprise, I've found that men's dreams often focus on relationships," she tells us. "I really thought that would be more of a woman's thing."
Read on to learn what eight common dreams say about your love life.
1. If You Dream About ... Building or Healing
"Dreams about a healing wound or of building something new -- like a house or a bridge -- tend to occur when a person has just made a romantic connection that is going to be a positive force in their life," Holloway explains.
2. If You Dream About ... Bad Past Relationships
"On the other hand," she continues, "if we are making a connection that might be less wholesome, people start dreaming of bad relationships they have been in in the past."
3. If You Dream About ... Contentment and General Fulfillment
When Holloway asks people what they were dreaming after they met the person that became their spouse, they tend not to be having erotic, sexy dreams. Instead, their subconscious feeds them dreams of general fulfillment and contentment. An example of this is a man who dreamed of buying a farm that become very fertile, right before he realized that the woman he was with was the one.
4. If You Dream About ... Sex
As for those erotic, sexy dreams that heat up the night? Holloway says you should be careful not to read too much into them:
"Erotic, Hollywood-style dreams are more signals of excitement and attraction," she said. "But what I see a lot of is people assuming because you had a dream about rolling in the surf, or some other erotic scene, that means you've meet your soul mate. For better or worse, this is not the sign your subconscious is sending."
5. If You Dream About ... Other Happy Couples
According to Holloway, often single folks will dream about a couple they know, or even a fictional or famous couple who have a reputation for being happy. "That is an indication that the person having the dream is ready to get involved in a relationship again," she told us
6. If You Dream About ... Members of the Opposite Sex in a Surprising Way
Most people have had surprising members of the opposite sex pop into their dreams. But according to Holloway, having a dream in which there is chemistry between you and -- for example -- a co-worker, doesn't necessarily mean you secretly pine for a romantic relationship with that person.
"A lot times these are partnership dreams," she says. "Which could be all kinds of partnerships, including business, professional, intellectual, or a shared hobby or enthusiasm."
7. If You Dream About ... Flying
According to Holloway, when somebody in relationship has the famous flying dream, it is an indication that they've been having some really good sex. Hey, she's the expert.
8. If You Dream About ... Your Partner Cheating on You
"People often dream their partner is being unfaithful during a time when that partner has gotten really excited about their career, or is starting to work more," says Holloway.
In general, Holloway believes discussing your dreams with your partner is a good idea because "you find out a lot about what your partner is thinking."
But she does offer this disclaimer: "If you do discuss dreams with your partner, you have to put each other in what I call the witness protection program," she warned. "That way nobody gets incriminated if they bring up that romantic tryst with a movie star their subconscious conjured up."
BTW, we're pretty sure that if your girlfriend is willing to let you discuss your Angelina Jolie sex dream with her, it's another good tip-off that you've found true love
Do your dreams have anything to do with your relationships?
|Yes, what's going on in my real life comes up in my unconscious. ||5651 (36.4%)|
|No, my dreams resemble reality in no way.||6736 (43.4%)|
|Depends. What does that dream about forgetting to wear pants mean?||3139 (20.2%)|