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'Manning Up' by Kay Hymowitz: Has the Rise of Women Turned Men Into Boys? {MyDaily}

Mar 19th 2011 1:16PM I feel women had no choice. They had to start educating and support themselves. In early history when men were breadwinners they consistently took advantage of the women due to their inability to earn outside the hoe. If and when he left for a younger woman, either his wife had to just "take it" or risk her and her children being left in the street; the povertization of women is still a very true situation of over 80% of most women who are divorced with kids, after 30 - especially if she dedicated herself to the family and decided not to work, being there for him and them.

Women started to work and educate themselves to protect themselves. Afterward, men became use to women working and helping with the finances, but still wanted women to do all the domestic work, creating what is now called a "second shift." Women decided, if they are already having to support themselves, contribute to the children welfare and do all the domestic duties..what exactly was the man doing except adding to her burden - waited on like a child, while asserting his "male" domination/rights due to gender.

In a nutshell, men "nuked" themselves, when they had the traditional role mapped out, they did not respect the women for her role - they looked upon it as "less" since it did not bring in a paycheck and frequently took extreme advantage. Now, women can and often feel why put up with the "bull" of a man, since even though she works, he still refuses to help with the traditional "female" stuff...if she has to do it on her own, it might as well be, just that - on her own - without having a man who is acting like a frat boy, hanging with the guys, yet still expect her to buckle down and play the traditional "wifey" after she has also put in a 40+ hour day.

Give Me 10 ... Thousand: Parents Shell Out Small Fortunes for Kids' Personal Trainers {ParentDish}

Sep 9th 2010 2:06AM Terry,

Excellent comment! I don't see Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Dartmouth, Johns Hopkin's etc., setting their reputation on a great football, basketball, etc. team but by academics. It seems many of these parents are willing to spend a college tuition in the hopes of a scholarship to...uh..pay for a college tuition..hummm...maybe they need to go back to community college and take a basic course in economics or financial planning, along with statistics. Since statistically the chance of many children actually getting that hoped for athletic scholarship is about as probable as winning the lotto and economically they may end up paying the equivilent of 2 college tuitions, if they are starting the kids off in middle and junior high school (1 tuition for the training and 1 when the kid actually needs to go to college).

North Carolina Paying Teenage Girls Not to Procreate {Lemondrop}

Jul 26th 2009 4:42PM I love that your speaking at schools about the hardship you have endured and most especially the negative impact upon your son in multiple ways due to you not being able to really be a mom, since you were too busy having to work multiple jobs just to put food on the table --- but do you really think this program would have helped you stay abstinent or take the pill, make your boyfriend put on a condom, etc., if you were not willing to then? I really don't think so, since I am sure you heard about the risks from schools, friends, religious people and your parents, plus subconsciously you knew right from wrong as well as what possible consequence could have been even before engaging in a pre-marital relation, paricularly as a teen and not a self-sufficient single adult. Yet, you choose to engage in such action and did, indeed, suffer quite a consequence. I am sure you adore, love and feel blessed by your child now, but during all the time you were struggling resentment must have often been a constant foe as well as the guilt and anger from your son about not being able to have a parent. As you state, he feels he raised himself....I see many clients (where I volunteer) who complain about this and honestly have very damaged relationships with their parent(s), if any relation at all since they were never able to bond to a missing caregiver.

25 Percent of Office Workers Are Looking at Internet Porn {Asylum}

Dec 2nd 2008 8:08PM Your exactly correct. Porno is never acceptable within an office...please it is not as if the guy/gal opened up a cute joke a friend sent, but browsing porn sites..I agree, not even a warning, if they are that lazy and bored they definitely need to be out of the job and put someone in who is actually willing to work and make a contribution!

What Would You Do to Lose Weight? {AOL Video Blog}

Jan 6th 2008 11:10AM #136 - gluttony is a sin, actually if you read your bible it is one of the 7 deadly sins that Christ spoken about. Additionally, gluttony tends to be a sin in each monotheistic religion, including Islam and Judaism.

What Would You Do to Lose Weight? {AOL Video Blog}

Jan 6th 2008 11:07AM It is agreed - most people are fat due to not wanting to do anything about their size - I was once a 22 and now am a 6 without surgery, etc. It was diet, exercise and a prescription to help me control my urge to eat in the beginning.

What I find is really horrific are all the fat parents teaching their children to be equally as fat -type 2 diabetes among children under 12 has become a virtual pandemic due to parents to lazy to cook but think the fast food window is an adequate substitute. A couple of days ago I saw a women in the store - huge of course at least a size 20, with her equally obeses 8 year old daughter having to sit in the cart (she took up the whole bottom half of the cart - I was wondering where the mom was going to put groceries) since the daughter, at 8, was too tired to walk around the store with her---she was eating the 10pc nugget meal with large fries and drink as well!!! WAKE UP - STOP KILLING YOR KIDS and setting them up for years of health problems since your too lazy to help them eat right - heck if you can't do it for yourself, at least, care enough about your child/ren.

2007 Departures: Cough and cold syrup for infants {WalletPop}

Dec 31st 2007 7:29PM It is sad they are about to the pull the infant medicine, I will probably have to give my newbie a toddler cold remedy when she is not feeling well.

Sadly, also, too many parents go by age of the child and not its weight. For example, my son is 7 but only weighs 49 lbs, when he was born -prematurely, he was only 4lbs, therefore, his dosing was never what it would be for others his age. If you notice, most doctors when looking to write a script will always check the childs weight to know exactly what the dose should be moreso than the age.

Parents of overweight kids are in denial {That's Fit}

Dec 26th 2007 7:54PM Sadly, I was a very fat child, and being a latchkey kid like so many now a days with two parents or one parent working and not able to be at home to guide or want to guide a child to a healthy style, I ballooned to a size 22 by middle school. After leaving the parental domicile, then I dropped to a 6. Now I have a child, he is thin and healthy and allowed fast food once a week, but I also make him eat many healthy choices - he wants cheetoes, eat a banana first and then if still hungry, yes you can have the cheetoes - of course, after the banana he is often full and does not want the junk. Also, if have seen parents who are so restrictive over junk food (chips, cookies, etc.) that when they go to someone elses house and see it they go crazy - literally stuffing themselves like wild. I think everything must be in moderation. As for the children in the picture - they are disgusting, as disgusting as I was at that age and something must be done if the parents refuse. If so they will have the self-esteem of a snail - I still see the fat kid in the mirror who was made fun of constantly from bullies, etc. Even though I am now 39 and a counselor for teens - I still have to battle the bad programming which was heaped on to me throughout my life until the weight was lost.

When adoption doesn't 'work out' {ParentDish}

Dec 21st 2007 8:59AM I have never adopted so do not know the trials and tribulations of such, but I have a wonderful 7 year old son and am pregnant with a precious baby girl. Yet, even though he is my bio child, it is not always a picnic - he has tantrums, talks back, needs a tutor for some subjects and now, we just got the news that he may have mild ADD (not ADHD, but ADD) therefore, as bio kids do not come pre-certified to be perfect without problems, how can one expect an adopted child, who has been thrown away like garbage or treated as such to not have any problems!! Are they living in a fantasy? Now this poor 7 year old gets to feel this way twice - plus a lot of adoptions are open and it is not uncommon for the adoptive and birth parent to keep in some form of "touch" for the childs psyche (to not feel like a disposable human) and for the child to realize how lucky they are that one who is responsible, loved them enough to become their "true" parent (but of course, this takes a lot of time - the child might be 20 before she cognitively realizes what could have happened by living with her bio mom or in the system). Bottom line just as you can not return your bio kids and what parent should, you should not be able to return an adoptive child unless they are so antisocial they are trying to, or have harmed, the other kids in the family and no special help is available for their psychological needs.

5 sex vows ... before you say "I do" {Aisledash}

Nov 14th 2007 5:29PM Although I agree with the little tips, they are all for women, what about men...they also should keep themselves, but once married will go in a rut...gain weight, run around in boxers and a torn tee shirt, while they expect you in V.Secret, or just become so stress they also forget about those things you mentioned; why is it always up to the woman to do everything...why can we not feel stressed or comfortable in sweats as well. After cleaning the house, cooking, helping our children, etc., I also have the right to feel comfortable and not have to look like "Barbie", as he does not have to look like "ken." In marriage you should be past the shallow, but still care enough about yourself and partner not to let your self look like heck.